a good quote

i’m reading a photo-essay book entitled, “Be My Baby: parents and children talk about adoption” that caught my eye at the library. some of the essays are very interesting–some are celebrities, some are interracial, some are open, some are semi-open and some are closed. there’s both international and domestic, private and agency. the book is divided into 4 sections–interviews with the parents, interviews with the kids, interviews with some of the kids after they’ve grown into adults, and a small section from birthparents. one quote that caught my attention was from one of the kids who said,

“I think everybody should understand what adoption is, because if they have the wrong ideas and a chance comes for them to adopt and raise a child, they’re not going to take it because they’ll be scared of what they don’t know.” –Jared

I think this is one of the reasons I write this blog. Before all of the infertility issues cropped up, I’d never particularly pictured myself becoming an adoptive parent. I didn’t think it was anything bad (I’ve got several cousins who were adopted, so it’s not unfamiliar) and I wasn’t overtly “scared” of it… adoption was just one of those “fine for other people” kind of things. (yes, of course I did have some fears and now that I’ve done more research, many of those fears have been quelled….. and i’ve gained NEW fears! hooray!) I know that some people feel called to adopt, or have always thought that this was their life path, but it took me awhile to really get here. And just like lots of life-path-changing decisions or events, you too could find yourself in a position to adopt. and i share these few thoughts so that maybe, if the opportunity presented itself, you wouldn’t be scared.