{"id":259,"date":"2010-01-14T14:28:38","date_gmt":"2010-01-14T21:28:38","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/riftraft.jayandcarissa.com\/?p=259"},"modified":"2010-01-14T14:30:28","modified_gmt":"2010-01-14T21:30:28","slug":"a-post-all-to-itself","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/riftraft.jayandcarissa.com\/?p=259","title":{"rendered":"a post all to itself"},"content":{"rendered":"

part of the struggle of the adoption journey is a loss of control for the adoptive parents.\u00a0 when i first read about this phenomenon, i shrugged it off thinking, yeah, yeah, loss of control, OBVIOUSLY, plus, when you’re pregnant yourself, it’s just the illusion of control, right?\u00a0 who cares?\u00a0 well, this loss of control has manifested itself interestingly in several concrete ways.\u00a0 And I’ve coped in several interesting and concrete ways.\u00a0 One of my big coping mechanisms that caused poor j some dismay was a complete obsession over a gliding rocking chair.\u00a0 i began searching craigslist as early as last august (possibly earlier, but i recently found some e-mail in my archives that proved i’ve been at this at least that long) as soon as i realized that our wonderful, wedding-gift-from-grandparents bentwood Amish rocking chair just wasn’t going to be comfortable for long, late-night feeding sessions.\u00a0 (twisted branches aren’t so comfy for elbows, who knew?)\u00a0 i did research.\u00a0 i shopped at local stores.\u00a0 i swore not to give any money to the megastore who’s initials are b.r.u.\u00a0 i dropped my jaw to the floor when i tried out the most amazing chair<\/a> at a small local furniture store (it looked NOTHING like a rocker, but when you flipped this small secret switch…. hey presto!\u00a0 smooth gliding action!\u00a0 and it was so comfortable!!) and then dropped my jaw again when i realized that if we ordered that chair in leather (easy to clean!\u00a0 cats won’t shred it!) it would cost almost $2K.\u00a0 ouch.\u00a0 my thrifty mennonite heritage (and my thrifty mennonite mother) would not allow me to spend such an extravagant amount on just a chair.\u00a0 so i spent a few months just mourning the impossibility of that chair and also engaging in some sour grapes-ing (although it would recline with a footrest like a regular recliner, it didn’t rock when reclined, which i sort of wanted it to do.)\u00a0 And i continued to comb craigslist.\u00a0 then, over Winter Break, I just decided that we needed to just take the plunge and BUY something.\u00a0 I found a chair on the Chicago craigslist that was really lovely (perhaps too lovely–it was heavily in the Craftsman style) and was $300.\u00a0 I e-mailed and decided this was the chair for us.\u00a0 Then, just to check, I looked at the Milwaukee listings and found a chair that was just as good-possibly better for $350.\u00a0 Less gas money is a good thing, so I contacted that seller to ask a few further questions.\u00a0 The next day she replied that the chair had already sold.\u00a0 “well, I thought, I guess that just means that there’s something better out there waiting for me.”\u00a0 A few hours later, I happened to check the listings again (seriously, i wasn’t THIS obsessive the whole time, just once or twice, right honey?) and I noticed another chair that was the brand we were looking for, seemed to be in good shape, but maybe had a few stains on the cushions (which I had other big plans for no matter what anyway), but it reclined, rocked while it reclined, had padded arms, and pockets on the arms too!\u00a0 It didn’t have an ottoman, but it was listed at $70.\u00a0 I e-mailed the seller right away and asked if we could pick it up that evening.\u00a0 She seemed to think it wasn’t worth us driving all the way to Milwaukee, but I assured her that we didn’t mind.\u00a0 And so here, after waaaaaay too much searching, is the chair:<\/p>\n

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I’ve got big plans for making it look a little spiffier, but we’ll see if those plans ever actually materialize.\u00a0 Also, I still need to find a gliding ottoman.\u00a0 But maybe I’ll just bite the bullet , do my husband a favor and buy a new one.\u00a0 Whew!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

part of the struggle of the adoption journey is a loss of control for the adoptive parents.\u00a0 when i first read about this phenomenon, i shrugged it off thinking, yeah, yeah, loss of control, OBVIOUSLY, plus, when you’re pregnant yourself, it’s just the illusion of control, right?\u00a0 who cares?\u00a0 well, this loss of control has […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-259","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/riftraft.jayandcarissa.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/259","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/riftraft.jayandcarissa.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/riftraft.jayandcarissa.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/riftraft.jayandcarissa.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/riftraft.jayandcarissa.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=259"}],"version-history":[{"count":4,"href":"http:\/\/riftraft.jayandcarissa.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/259\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":263,"href":"http:\/\/riftraft.jayandcarissa.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/259\/revisions\/263"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/riftraft.jayandcarissa.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=259"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/riftraft.jayandcarissa.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=259"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/riftraft.jayandcarissa.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=259"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}