we just got back from a great trip to visit j’s family out east.\u00a0 we more or less didn’t leave the house the entire weekend–it was great!\u00a0 the one time that we actually left the house (other than for a run or to go get pizza down the street) was on Friday when we decided to go to the local JoAnn fabric store for a few crafting supplies and to take advantage of some great sales.\u00a0 We arrived, fully expecting looooong lines at the cutting counter, but got lucky in our timing and didn’t end up waiting at all!\u00a0 One of the things we bought there was some fabric to make swaddling blankets and burp cloths.\u00a0 My sister-in-law needed to make some for a friend of hers who has an upcoming baby shower and while I was there in the store with her, she asked if I wanted to pick out any flannels for our baby.\u00a0 At first, I wasn’t sure… should I pick out boy fabric or be super safe and still go gender neutral?\u00a0 She suggested I go for boy prints because if I end up with a girl, she can always give the boy fabrics to someone else.\u00a0 So i found some cute fabric with cars and a great stripe print (of course).\u00a0 Then, I found some MORE flannels in the quilter’s flannel section that I love-love-loved, but of course, those weren’t on sale.\u00a0 sigh.\u00a0 but I still just had to get them for myself.\u00a0 As the fabrics were being cut at the cutting table, the woman behind me said, “those are nice, what are they for?”\u00a0 and I replied that I was thinking of using them to make “baby stuff” but I wasn’t sure exactly what specific baby stuff they’d turn into.\u00a0 And then I had to FIGHT the urge to explain that I wasn’t pregnant and that I hadn’t just had a baby and I even found myself wanting to lie and say, “It’s for a friend.”\u00a0 Why?\u00a0 Why in the world would I lie to her?\u00a0 Why do I care if this random woman who lives halfway across the country thinks I might be pregnant?\u00a0 I mean, I really don’t feel like saying, “It’s for the baby we might be adopting in March” because, well, that’s just too much information.\u00a0 The woman behind me didn’t want (or need) to know that and I didn’t feel like getting into any sort of adoption conversation with her.\u00a0 She actually ended up following up her comments a few moments later by saying, “It would make a lovely quilt” or something like that.\u00a0 But… if I had been pregnant and due in March, would I have shared that good news with her?\u00a0 And would I have felt obligated to follow up with an admonition not to get too excited for me because anything can happen between now and March?\u00a0 Still working on that “to the wind” thing.\u00a0 But four years of conditioning is hard to shrug off quickly.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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