{"id":176,"date":"2009-09-13T18:25:06","date_gmt":"2009-09-14T01:25:06","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/riftraft.jayandcarissa.com\/?p=176"},"modified":"2009-09-13T18:25:06","modified_gmt":"2009-09-14T01:25:06","slug":"book-review-the-adoption-reader","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/riftraft.jayandcarissa.com\/?p=176","title":{"rendered":"Book Review: The Adoption Reader"},"content":{"rendered":"

I read The Adoption Reader<\/em>, edited by Susan Wadia-Ells.\u00a0 It’s a collection of essays written by birth mothers, adoptive mothers and adopted daughters.\u00a0 I found many of the stories very touching, but I was disappointed that the essays by the adopted daughters barely mentioned their adoptive parents–except in one essay when she talked rather disparagingly about her adoptive mother.\u00a0 Instead, pretty much all of the birth mother and adopted daughter essays were about finding each other or not finding each other and the pain\/joy\/disappointment surrounding that event.\u00a0 The adoptive mother essays sort of sat between the two other collections, dividing them.\u00a0 what a poignant representation of why open adoption is a better way to go.\u00a0 Then, no one has to spend so much of their life energy wondering and searching.\u00a0 Instead, they know.\u00a0 Or at least have some idea.\u00a0 And can spend their life energy working on some kind of a relationship.\u00a0 Or not.\u00a0 But not wondering, wishing, pining, and regretting.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

I read The Adoption Reader, edited by Susan Wadia-Ells.\u00a0 It’s a collection of essays written by birth mothers, adoptive mothers and adopted daughters.\u00a0 I found many of the stories very touching, but I was disappointed that the essays by the adopted daughters barely mentioned their adoptive parents–except in one essay when she talked rather disparagingly […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-176","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/riftraft.jayandcarissa.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/176","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/riftraft.jayandcarissa.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/riftraft.jayandcarissa.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/riftraft.jayandcarissa.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/riftraft.jayandcarissa.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=176"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"http:\/\/riftraft.jayandcarissa.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/176\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":177,"href":"http:\/\/riftraft.jayandcarissa.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/176\/revisions\/177"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/riftraft.jayandcarissa.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=176"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/riftraft.jayandcarissa.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=176"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/riftraft.jayandcarissa.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=176"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}